TW: premature birth, traumatic birth
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I was born a premie, 2 months before my due date. I grew up hearing my birth story often. To the point that it’s forever etched in my memory: warm November evening (like Mariah Carey “The Roof” song) my Mom wore a dress with a pretty robe, one of my brothers was there, and my Dad drove the white Cadillac. My Mom told me a couple of years ago that she was calm —She said I slid down, small & purple & not breathing. And how my Dad was screaming in the drive thru of the hospital once they got there, “My wife’s having a baby…” to the hospital staff.
My family (my parents and siblings) suffered a lot of loss with my birth:
💙 not having a healthy baby (I was 3lbs 4oz) & stayed in hospital for 2 months
💙no skin to skin
💙 my parents had to go back to work
💙 and drive to NICU Level 4 everyday after work
💙 Parents told I may / may not make it
💙Had surgery @ 2 weeks
There was so much loss—the unknowing- of control. This was the 80’s premature babes were transitioning. Loss of security.
As an adult, as a doula now, I wish I could teleport and support & smooth my Mom through this traumatic ssa birth with me. To help educate her about NICU, to offer resources and gifts. To stand in while the family was @ working/school. To hold space and listen to her about how she was feeling during that time. I’ve shared that with my Mom.
As a doula, my heart is for families who suffer from losses that folks don’t talk much about.
I’m there to bear witness and also serve as a balm / buffer too. To smooth / calm & EMPOWER especially when families feel most vulnerable.
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